Inspiration For a Lifetime

A person is a person, no matter how small.” — Dr. Seuss

This quote has never meant more to me than it does now.
I’m not a parent– nor have I ever had much interest in becoming one– but there’s one thing I do know, and that’s basic human psychology.

You see, I’ve never been one to really “get along” with kids. Especially kids below the age of 5. When my niece was born, that changed for the better. I get along with her great and have learned a lot in the way of “parenting”.  I am perfectly comfortable with disciplining her now. Before she was born I had a hard time just talking to a child. The only thing I’m not that comfortable with right now is changing diapers. Don’t ask me why, it’s just… gross to me. I’ve changed soggy diapers, but poopy diapers just gross me out too much still.

The reason for this article is because of the aforementioned quote. Obviously I know that children are people. It would be illogical and just plain stupid to think that they weren’t.
But what I’m getting at is this:
How often do we discipline a child for silly things like crying or just having an off day?

Why do we act as though children can’t have bad days, but yet we have them all the time?

Think about it.
You wake up in the morning, stub your toe on the foot of your bed, slop toothpaste on your shirt, and get a ticket on the way to work because you were running late. We say we’re “having a bad day”, and we expect people to just deal with the fact that we’re grumpy. We use the excuse of having a bad day to be rude and short with people, which isn’t fair to them, but it is how it is.
Now consider this: A child wakes up, hits their head on something, breaks their favorite toy, and a kid at school says something mean to them at recess. They come home in a bad attitude because they clearly had a bad day, and maybe they act out a little more than usual. But what do we do? We jump down their throats because they’re not behaving properly like little perfect, “well-behaved” adults.

WHY do we do this?
Is it fair to them? Not at all.
Is it okay for us adults to throw our manners to the wind on our bad days, but expect more out of our children or the children around us?

Maybe instead of expecting more out of children, we should begin to see them as children. They have their own sets of challenges they have to face every day. Constantly being nagged or yelled at or criticized or disciplined can really break a child’s learning ability. It can also really skew their views on how a healthy relationship works.

Imagine if you got a new job, and your new boss only ever told you that you did stuff wrong, but they never showed you the proper way to execute the task. It would be pretty confusing and frustrating, wouldn’t it? You’d most likely get angry about not ever being able to satisfy your boss’s requirements, and probably start to give up. You wouldn’t grow or prosper at your job, and your chances of advancement would be pretty limited. If you only ever worked jobs like this, you would probably come to expect every job to be this way and would most-likely end up depressed and unmotivated to even try to succeed in life.

Now put yourself into an environment where you’re taught step-by-step how to properly perform a task to completion. When you start to catch on, you’re entrusted with bigger and more challenging tasks. You earn rewards in the forms of raises and bonuses. You can learn and grow in this environment, and your opportunity for advancing in your field begins to grow as well.

If a child is constantly put down for something they do wrong instead of shown how to do it properly and helped to carry out the task the first few times, all they receive is a negative message. They understand that they did something wrong, but they’re not given any direction on how to change what they did the next time.

Like I said, I don’t have kids. I’ve never wanted kids.
But now that I’ve had more experience with kids, I have to say that they’re not that hard to figure out. Show them how to do things, help them do things, discipline when needed, but keep your messages positive and loving.

Positive reinforcement can make huge strides in a child’s development of a healthy outlook of themselves as well as others.

Ta for now. 🙂

Work In Progress

Right.
So. An update is in order. 
A long overdue update.
Sorry ’bout that. Life has been hectic.

Where did we leave off?
It’s been so long that I can’t remember, so I’ll just begin with this:

I have a job! I’m an adult again! Hooray!
Or something to that effect.
In all honesty I’m only getting about 12 – 15 hours a week right now at about $8/hour, but… it’s better than nothing and I’m not in a factory. I also have my evenings and weekends free to do whatever I please, so I honestly have no room to complain; many people would love that opportunity.

Other than work (which is a job cleaning houses if I haven’t already said that in a previous blog– I honestly can’t remember), I’ve been spending my time in front of my computer doing tons and tons of networking and friend-making.
Why?
I’ll tell you why.

I’m in Wilmington, NC.
Which is affectionately known as “Wilmywood” to the movie business. It’s basically the Hollywood of the east, which is actually really freaking cool. They’ve filmed tons of stuff here, a few being: Dawson’s Creek, One Tree Hill, Eastbound & Down (which is actually in production for season 2 right now), bits of Iron Man 3, Sleepy Hollow (currently in production), and lots of other things that I really have no time to list.

Right.
So.
About me and why this is important.

Well, a couple summers ago I had, what I thought, was a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to help out a few friends who were making an independent film. (Not that kind, pervs.) I got to help out doing a lot of things that I had no knowledge of. And when I say no knowledge, I mean NO KNOWLEDGE.
Zip.
Zero.
Zilch.
And yet there I was, thrown into the crew on the set of a movie. The crew was very small; there was only about five of us. We all had to cover multiple jobs, whatever they may be. I did some grip work, some lighting, and a lot of 2nd AC (assistant camera) jobs.
It was all very, very exciting and new. I had no idea what I was doing most of the time. I had to learn special lingo, which was all very odd. For example: Apple boxes. They have nothing to do with apples. So for about 99% of the time when I was told to go retrieve something from the truck, I had to ask what the heck it was. And then I had to try and remember it for the rest of the time I was helping out, which was a little overwhelming.
I made a few friends during that weekend and I learned a lot. I still remember the day the DP (director of photography) actually trusted me enough to carry his camera. I bear-hugged that thing with my life. It was probably one of the most nerve-wrecking moments of my life.
When it was all said and done, I just marked it off as one of many moments in life where you sit back and think “Wow, that was a blast!” but you never really think of it as being something you’ll every be able to do again.

Fast-forward to my current life in Wilmington and I find myself surrounded by film opportunities every day. This city is literally buzzing with entertainment business. Whether it be feature films, nighttime television or commercials, it’s going on.

Since moving here I’ve already been a background extra in 2 projects: An independent film and FOX’s Sleepy Hollow which premieres this Fall. Now, to be completely honest, I have absolutely zero desire to be an actor. I don’t want to be on TV, or in movies, or whatever.
Not at all.

I want to be behind the scenes.
I want to be the person who helps capture the winning shots.
I want to be a part of making the magic happen.

When did I discover this was something I wanted to do as a career? Honestly, it wasn’t until I moved down here and realized that there was an opportunity for it. I had looked into film school prior to moving (after hearing they film movies and TV shows here), but I’ve always been one who would rather not spend thousands upon thousands of dollars for a piece of paper that says “Yup, she paid out the butt for this paper, and it doesn’t mean squat in her field of work!” (Yes I realize a film degree can come in handy in a few areas, but for the most part it’s not required.)

And so I did the next best thing.
I Facebook’d like it was my JOB. I’m talking sometimes 5-6 hours a day.
And I prayed. I prayed hard, every single night that God would begin to open doors if this was where He wanted me to be.
I fully believe there was purpose behind me getting the experience I did those 2 summers ago. It was more than just a fleeting moment in life.
It was the start of a life that I had no intention of living, but yet… here I am.

Since discovering all the wonderful people on Facebook (casting pages, local film groups, local film makers, people currently in school for film, etc.) I have met a few who are willing to give me the opportunity to come work with them when they begin production of their works. There are rewards for people who are open to learn and do whatever it takes to get something they want.
Now, these people aren’t working on huge block-busters, but hey… it’s a start. Any experience I can get is going to set me on the path of bigger and better things in the future. The gigs won’t be paying to start out. I’ll be doing everything completely free-of-charge. Which is okay with me. Sure, the hours will be long sometimes and I’m sure it’ll be hot, frustrating, overwhelming and hard, but in the long run it will be incredibly worth it.

I am in complete awe of all the doors God has opened in a matter of weeks.
I literally went from a life of no direction, to feeling like I finally have purpose and a place to call home.
In Ohio I felt like I was stifled. I never felt like that was where I was meant to be.
Wilmington feels like I can actually make a life here.
It’s big. It’s hot. It’s missing a lot of things I had relied on back home (Hello, US Bank?), and it has strange things I’ve never seen before. (What the heck is a “Harris-Teeter”?)

But you know what the number 1 thing this city has that Ohio didn’t?
Opportunity.

I don’t know know if I’ll ever make it to be on the crew of a major motion picture. I would sure love to, but from what I’ve read, those jobs are all about who you know. Networking is the best thing you can do in the film industry, and that’s why I’m trying my hardest to get out there and get experience so that one day all my hard work and determination will pay off.

All my life I’ve been simply fascinated by behind-the-scenes stuff. I remember growing up watching a show called “Movie Magic”. I loved seeing all the animatronics, puppets, props, sets, models, and everything it took to capture a scene. I was more interested in seeing how a scene was made than I was in seeing the actual finished scene. That fascination has carried on into today. Had I been smart I would have pursued it a lot earlier in life, but… God has His plans and I am no one to question them.

I still get lost in movies.
I sometimes have a hard time focusing on the plot because I’m too busy watching the stuff going on in the background. Or I’m looking for mistakes. Or reflections of the camera crew in doors, windows, puddles, cars, etc. And a more recent habit is picturing how the scene was set up; where the camera was when the scene was shot, what they used to take the shot (did they use a dolly or jib?). And sometimes I try to count how many angles they use in one single scene.
So as you can imagine, paying attention to epic movies like Lord of the Rings becomes incredibly hard, which is why it took me literally YEARS to be able to watch the entire trilogy successfully.

Now that I have seen the entire trilogy, plus The Hobbit, I have been completely enraptured by film. I love everything it takes to capture the magic. The fact that you can get people from all over the world to come together to make a masterpiece is incredibly amazing.

I want to do that.
I want to take a story on a page and turn it into a visual journey.
I want to travel to distant lands seeking the perfect landscape to give a face to a vision.
I want to be a part of timeless adventures that stand the test of time.
I want to work so hard every day that I come home completely wiped out from redoing a scene multiple times from every angle possible just to make sure we got it just right– even if it means a 16-hour day in rain or snow.
I want this job even though it means my name will be listed way after the audience has left the theater, and no one will know who I am and all the necessary work I put into entertaining them for 2 hours.

You see… I want this not for recognition or money or fame. I don’t care about that.
I care about the art.
I want this job for the simple fact that I love it.

First Week in Wilmington

It has been an incredibly long time since I’ve last updated this thing, and I’d like to apologize for my very small amount of followers.

Moving to a new state takes a lot out of a person. I’ve been pretty busy since arriving here in Wilmington, NC last Friday. A lot has gone on in just a week!

Mark and I set out around midnight last Thursday. Being 3rd shifters, driving at night was no big deal. I was mostly just concerned with us getting tired once we encountered the monotony of the highway. We drove straight through the night, and surprisingly our cat took the ride very well. He mostly just rode on my lap or by my feet the entire time, but once we hit the morning traffic near Wilmington he began to get a little stressed. By the time we made it to our new place, my clothes, Mark’s and my car all had a nice layer of fur.

Since arriving in Wilmington I’ve seen the ocean 3 times and have successfully turned my face a lovely shade of lobster. However, the salt and sun have done wonders for my hair— it’s lighter and waiver than ever, and yet I really couldn’t care less because I wake up every day with the perfect example of beach waves. I’ve only ingested about 10 gallons of sea water and been annihilated by 3 or so waves, so I don’t think I’m doing too bad for a newbie.

I’ve also seen the historic district a couple times, which includes a scenic river walk, lots of boats, quaint little restaurants and some very artful crafts and some very tasty foods. The other day we took a trip to Greenfield Lake where I saw some of the prettiest trees I’ve ever seen in my life. I also fed some turtles and laughed at a very ugly duck. Haha.

I’ve managed to land 2 job interviews for house cleaning positions. I’ll hopefully be taking the one with the perfect hours (8:30a – 1p), and Mark has gotten into a pizza shop. We’re not rolling in cash, but it’s enough to get us established. Meanwhile we’ve been living off a steady diet of toast, cereal and powdered milk. I do what I can in the ways of coffee, but I’ll definitely be needing to invest in a reusable filter for my Keurig. (Spoiled much?)

Overall, my short time here in Wilmington has already been life-changing and it’s only been a week. I’m overwhelmed, but it’s in a good way! I’m also planning on taking the first steps towards securing a career for myself, but I don’t have many details as of now, so I’ll disclose that all in a future post.

Until then, take care!

If It Can Happen, It Will

So my Hubs and I are currently saving for a massive move down to North Carolina from our hometowns in Ohio. Everything is going okay so far, and we’re expecting to head out in about 2 weeks.

Only problem is that during the last 2 months or so, we’ve managed to save about $0.00 for our trip. I’ve still got bank-draining bills I have to pay every month, and when you’re both considered poverty level, well… saving isn’t exactly the easiest. And then there’s of course the old rule of “If it can happen, it will”. I’ve been making repairs on my car for what seems like months. One part gets fixed, and another one goes.

So, I guess the whole purpose for this blog is to just get out the frustration I have with money. I hate how money defines every aspect of life. It determines way more than people think it does.

Anyway, I’m not getting discouraged. I know God will take care of us and Whisper on our trek down south. I just can’t help but wish there was a little more of a financial cushion in the bank. Ah well.

Ta!

Big Life Changes

My husband and I have been considering a big life change recently. I won’t be revealing very many details yet, just in case we decide against it or it doesn’t work out, but I will say that if this change occurs, my life will never be the same.

I’m excited.
I’m scared.
I’m nervous.
I’m happy.
I’m proud.

When and if this change comes, it’s going to require a lot of support from friends and family. I know I have the support of my sister and parents, and a close group of friends, but I’m really curious to see who lets go. A lot of people change their feelings towards you when something life-changing happens.

Anyway, just thought I would put this here since it’s on my mind. Ta for now.